My best friend's diary...

Last week, i was at home. And i was glad, all my school friends have landed from miles away to our hometown this Diwali. As i was at home after such a long time, my mom was keep asking me, what do you want to eat....fridge is full of cold drinks & ice-creams, you always like or try some dry fruits or sweets or chokolates you always loved.

I said..mom...i just want to eat normal food made of your very own hand. Nothing special, just dal, sabzi & chapaties. I wondered all those things,which used to waters my mouth,are no longer fascinating me.B'coze since i left my hometown, all these things are easily available and i always have money to buy them.

Now i really miss those days, when my father used to buy me ice-cream on my b'day and me & my brother used to go outside to have dosa. Masal dosa was my favorite dish. but not now, as i live in south india.i remember,one of my friend told me how she used to wait for her uncle,who buy her Britannia Bourbon as Bourbon was considered very expensive biscuits that time and her elder sister spent her childhood happily with Parle-G.

i really feel....we don't fascinated by things which are easily available.

Deepawali means "the array of lights" "Tamsomaa jyotirgamaya"(lead me from darkness to light) is an Upanishadic prayer.This means that where there is darkness, light is needed.

There are different types of darkness-they are Sorrow, loss, Disappointment, Misery and lack of enthusiasm.

To get rid of the darkness of sorrow- light the lamp of happiness.
To dispel the darkness of disease-install the light of health.
To overcome darkness of lose and failures-usher in the light of prosperity.

The flame of a lamp has two significant qualities, one is to banish darkness; the other is a continuous upward movement. Even if a lamp is kept in a pit, the flame is directed upwards. The ancients have taught that the upward movement of the flame denotes the path to wisdom and the path to divinity.

I wish you all 'A Happy and a safe Deepawali". Enjoy yourself with your family and friends. Eat lots of sweets and burst lots of crackers.!!

"Muje har us cheez se nafrat hai, jo insaan ne apne matlab ke liye banai hai aur Bhagwan unme se ek hai" a dialogue from a bollywood flick 'Border' has inspired me to write this article.
Have you ever think that "Does God exists?" This is the most debatable topic. But still every living person has its own perception regarding 'God'.Some thinks God is within us, some believes its existence only in pilgrimage places or Temples,Church etc.

Whenever we found ourself in some problem;we say 'Oh God,help me'.God was best made for this.Because God is nothing but a man made hypothetical entity, who is considered as more powerful than a human being. It was made for to revitalize or fill ourself with some optimistic wave, when we are in trouble.For example- before exam,we use to pray to god & on the next moment we found ourself equipped with a sudden confidence.

But i don't believe in God because i think

" Religion is for those people,who are afraid to go to hell
and Spirituality is for those people who are already been there"

"you have very good sense of humour" the compliment i have received several times in my life.Sometimes i think,what people make feel that i have great sense of homour.Its the virtue of mine to make fun of others that makes others burst into laughter except one,who is the victim.I think its a good deal to make nine people laugh even if one is suffering.

Many times i have tried healthy humour,but got not that much response that i usually get in making fun of someone.Even in some laughter show that are being telecast these days,you can find the comadian making fun of someone whether it is a celebrity or any politician or some public figure. I only like 'Raju Srivastav' who delve into small thing & come out with a really healthy humour.

In india,people love to laugh at something,in which , there is not a single bit of humour. Even people laugh at those who laugh loudly in a garden early in the morning.In india, if a group of people is laughing, you can sure of that someone is being victimised.

i found that " India is a hillarious country with no sense of humour"

There is always a person to whom we share all our secrets, tell all our problems,celebrate all festivals, B'days & who give us Jaadu ki Jappi(hug),when we are in trouble. Who jumps along with you, when you get pass the exam. The person whom we called as Friend.

Friendship is the only relationship which has no boundation to abide it with.You can choose your friend.You don't get them by birth.friends are always made to order .If you don't want your friendship more, you can break it.This is the virtue of friendship.

When we like someone as a friend. At that moment we become all his/her.We exchange vows to keep our friendship forever.We love his good,we love his bad.We talk to each other as much we can.Even if there is no topic to discuss about,we create it.

After half an hour, i'll become 23. It's my b'day. This b'day, i want to dedicate to all my friends, who have made my journey of these 23 years beautiful. Some of them are still in touch with me, some are not. But i always remember the time , i spent with them.

Yesterday,we all friends were sitting together, having fun. Some of us have a habit of finding flaws in others.It's been a long time,we all are doing this & really enjoyed a lot.

But finally we decided not to debug anyone & overlook the weaknesses of others. Because if you look for flaws, you'll surely find them.Instead of finding flaws,we should see the good thing that each one of us possesses.we can learn from everyone.Everyone has a story to tell or a joke to share.

As we are far away from our Home.The only people who take care of us are friends.And,friends are so important for a happy living.

So be mature enough to ignore small flaws of your friends.Because there is nothinG like F.R.I.E.N.D.S

i always wanted to get wet in Heavy rain. But i don't know why i had not. May be i was very protective or restrict myself to do some stupid things.

But a friend of mine in my college days always dragged me in heavy rain.i remembered, one day before exam there was heavy rain & he came to me & said 'chal ajay, barish me bheegte hai'. But i said 'yaar maan to hai, par muje padna hai'.

Then he said.
'Kutta maro...billi maro
par Maan ko mat maro'

and we both went outside & enjoyed a lot.

And same thing happened a few days back. i was watching TV & there were raining outside. I was wanted get wet in rain & then i remembered my friend's words. i went outside in the rain. Though i was alone but i enjoyed a lot.

A song is coming in my mind:
Cchai cchapa chai....cchapak ke cchai
paniyo pe ccheete...udati hua ladka

PS: pagalpanti bhi Zaruri hai

I have never encountered an accident & don't want to.
But i remembered an incident that i want to share with you

After +2 i went to Kota for IIT preparation.It's been one & a half month, i was away from my Home.Before that i have never been keep away from my parents for a single day.On Rakhi i got 3 days leave. We were four friends from my Hometown.But i reached at Bus stand a little late & i got a different Bus.I called my parents that i am leaving and will reach at 7:30 in the morning.

Bus started moving at 9:30. As there were no-one to talk.I put earphone of my SONY walkman.It was my favourite entertainment tool that time.I don't know when i started dozing off.I wake up at 5:30. I saw a milestone written as Chittorgarh-60Km.I was shocked.I asked them person beside me.He told me we were stuck in traffic-jam for 3 hrs.As i don't have mobile phone that time.So i couldn't call at home.I took it normally & again went back to my dream world.

But on the other side, at my home,things were not so normal.Time was passing by 8:30, 9:00, 9:30. All my friends who were just half an hour early,had reached home at 7:40.My father then called Travel agent and he told that an accident had been reported and they are trying to confirm it as they don't know which Bus got accident.And things became worse at my home.

I reached home at 10:30. As i entered in my home, ambience was unusual. My Mom was crying in a corner of the room and my papa was consoling her and My brother was sitting besides phone,having a small tear about to come out.When they saw me,i can't tell you how that situation was.They hugged me & asked me, 'why are you so late?'I told them about the traffic jam.But i was puzzled and i asked them 'what happened to you all?'. Then they explained everything.

I realized then 'May be parents are not everything for us, But Children are everything for them'.

One day i was eating an Apple. It has small part rotten. I threw it into dustbin.My friend scold me for doing so. he said, you can cut that rotten part & eat the rest of it.

You can find an fresh Apple without any rotten part, but you cannot find a friend without a bad part.Sometimes depression sets in.Happens to all of us. we try hard, stay true to our friends.yet miscommunication occurs.Maybe there is something about our friend that we don't like. We should ignore this.we should not forget the time we spent together & which made you smile.

When a bad things happens,
1.why we start hating that person, to whom with we have spent some best days of your life?

2.why things get change?

3.why a bad thing overpowers thousand good things?

4.why we start regretting on making friends?

P.S. Never regret on something, that made you smile atleast once.

Any person,we know in our life other than our parents & relatives, we called them friends.But i think there are two type of friends. One,to whom we hang around & have fun. But when we depart, we never miss them.

and the other, to whom we share our secrets.To whom we tell our problems and when he/she console us, we feel good.I have spent some good time with my friends of type 1, but i never miss them.And there are some friends,i called them of Type 2, still are in touch with me in every step of my life.They share their happy moments,they share their problems.

I always tell my friends , use me as a Trash Can of your life.Whatever garbage is in your life.Just throw into me. i won't complain.I'll always there for you.

I always fair at my side & never expect the same.That's keep me happy all the time.

But, i believe 'A friend in need is a friend indeed'.

A child has so many dreams. Somebody wants to be a cricketer, someone wants to be pilot. Even every day they has a new dream.But when they grow up & get in touch with real life.Some of them achieve, what they want and some of them couldn't make it, even they deserve it, they had enormous talent & had done hard work.

In this time of recession, some of my friends are dealing with the same situation. Nothing can be worse than when your dream shatters.

i remember a quote by Bill Gates:

"life is not fare always, get use to it"

But nothing is permanent...time will change...try to see other side of the door.

i am great fan of Bollywood flicks, but for past few days i am watching Hollwood movies.There is always some difference, when it comes to cultural aspact of different continents.Even i feel how liberal they are, in matters of relationship. They are so straight in displaying their emotion.

But when it comes to us, we have to think all about the world, rather than our own. And it become very difficult, when it is about opposite sex. if we talk about rural areas of india, a wife can not tell her husband that she don't love him. i mean , she is supposed to love her husband in any case. Even he is not loyal to her.She is not allowed to think beyond that. Forgot about rural part, lets talk about our life. i tell you an incident during my training in infy. One of my friend had a Re-Compre & all of us were waiting outside of the examination hall. when she got to know that she had cleared her exam & came out of the hall. she burst into tears, though it were tears of ecstasy.she was full of emotion that she want to hug somebody, but she didn't as there were only boys around including her best friend, who had help her in the preparation of her exam all days & night.Then soon after, a friend of ours came to congratulate her.She rushed to her & hugged her tightly. i just wondered what thing had stopped her to express her emotion. Certainly, it is our culture blessing (or curse) that restrict us to display emotion to opposite sex in public.

We always think, what the others will think, what we tell to our society as our society doesn't take a girl-boy relationship in a healthy way.Even we are fair in relationship.

Sometime i feel, why should we think about society,if society is not ready to think about us. But even i feel, when it's a story of someone else, we become the part of society & react in the same way. So problem is within us, not in the society. Because only we people make the society & we are the only one, who can make our society better.

lets do the new, & start thinking in a healthy way. follow the principal 'live happy & let live others happy'.

P.S. A candle loses nothing if it is used to light another one.

Some days back, i was talking to my friend. i told her the thing about her that i like. And she replied, you are a nice person, always praising me and you are the only one.

i just wondered, why i am the only one?People don't see the way i see or i have a different angle of seeing others.Most people don't give praise freely, even though it's true. But i feel the more you give away, the more everything around you grows towards you.

The friend, i was talking about, smiles when someone greet her, and in that way, you feel comfort in open up to her. And when you talk to her, every sentence, she speaks, starts with you name. And i think, this makes you feel great.B'coze your name is the sweetest sound you know.

Too often, we underestimate the power of touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment or the the smallest act of care- all of which have the power to turn life around.

So be nice to everyone, praise everyone, if deserves.And i do mean everyone. B'coz it scares me, when someone is really nice to me, but rude to a 'Chai-wala'



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It's been a long time, i am writing about my visit to a place. This post is just a collection of some random thoughts that crossed my mind while seeing pune.

'Beware of Swine flu', was the warning from one of my friend, while leaving for pune. Those words were still ringing in my mind, untill i reached pune.But i have hardly seen one or two person wearing a mask in last 3 days. First bad thing or rather good thing happened to me was, my phone stopped working.Somehow i managed to call my friends & told them that i am in pune now. Moreover i was telling myself loudly that finally i am in pune after making plans for pune thousand times for last 2 months.

My pune visit was more a friends visit, i still have my mind & heart there with them.when i entered in their home, i havn't feel that i havn't seen them for last 3-4 months. It was like ,i was living with the m for years.That's the quality of good friends.

The first question asked by P 'kya kahyega Ajay'. Nothing can be better than 'Ghar ka khaana'. though i hate cooking, but i helped them in cutting onions. M came to me & said 'here is masala chai for you'...god...i'm loving it.In the evening, we went for swimming.it did it long time back in Mysore.It was fun all over again, musti wala fun, remembering our training days.Then we decided to go to Aundh...a nearby place.It was a beautiful sight there.It just wasn't the beauty of nature,it was more about the fact that this time nature looked beautiful with the traffic on road and people having corn & panipuri(which is not a big deal in India).In the next hrs, we were having dinner at Tareef with a teddy, a gift from someone to someone.This teddy was emitting a certain innocence with its sweet face...believe me..

next day we went out for shopping,where i met one more friend.In the evening we were at Mocha...a caffe. we ordered lemon tea each(i don't remember the exact name of the drink), which was gleetfully garnished with a piece of lemon.A caffe is a best place to have fun, but ambience here was not so good.One of us didn't like it, i didn't like it either. But i found some curious souls checking out the couple at the back, the guy looks as if he made one of biggest mistake of his life.Then we had dinner at a nearby restaurant.

Monday morning, we wake up at 7 o'clock as we were going to watch movie...strange....7 o'clock....movie...Two of us didn't come as they found their bed more comfortable than a 20 minutes ride & a seat in a/c theater.But i enjoyed the part,theater was full of yungsters...all colors around. first time i bought a coffee instead of a cold drink in a movie. An don't ask me about the movie...(it was 'Dil bole Hadippa')....No comments.

we came back at home at 2 o'clock. Ever since we entered the room,only one question was flying around...'Shaam ke khane me kya khaana hai?' finally we decided to make 'Pyaz ke paraanthe'.As there were only one girl among us , had to do it. we just helped her in cutting onions & washing utensils.This was her first attempt of pyaz ke paraanthe. But with every bite, we used to close pur eyed and ummmmmmmm.....have this bliss wala experience...hahaha.... every bite was satisfying. i always had 'Pyaz ke pakode or paraantha' sometime or other.But this thing takes the entire onion experience to a another level.B'coz noone other than my mom, had made something for me with so much love & care.

At last i experienced Pune rain, just before the time i was about to leave.All in all i had a wonderful time, back with friends. Though i missed some, who were not not able to manage their stay in pune due to some random reasons.

P.S. when u meet old friends aftersuch a long time & have blast, u realize somewhere, the fun part is not there in work life & the fact that one's SOH(sense of Humour) decreases a bit.

Today, i was talking to my friend. we started talking about our mutual friends. i told her about everyone, where he/she is, what they are doing, what problems they are facing in their life.I the meanwhile she stoped me & asked how do you know everything about everyone. She was wondering, how one can be in touch with everyone. Then i said, how can you forget someone, you've been with or have spent a wonderful time together.

i feel, i'll never forget anyone, i've been with, b'coz each person has ther own qualities. i miss all mundane things of theirs., like one of my friend , whenever y0u offer her something to eat, she tastes it & always says, it's very good with such a good expression & one who never spent a single penny, had donated 1000 bucks to tSunami victims or the one who says hi to every foreigner, he sees while walking down the street if jaipur.

i am obsessed with little things. May be, i am crazy. When i was a kid, i always got late when i walk to school alone.Now i figured out , why. Sometimes i was watching a leaf falling from its mother tree, touches my feet, after following a bizzare path in the air or sometimes i tried to detach myself with my own shadow or sometimes i found myself, looking at the ants crossing the road, carrying weight more than their own bod weight.

Little things.....i think, it's the same with people. i see litle details in them, so specific to each of them that move me & that i miss & always miss. you can never replace anyone, b'coz everyone is made of such beautiful specific details. i put all these details of everyone, i met in drawers inside my head, which remains forever with me.

P.S. Every one is special in its own way.